How many couples pray together every day? It’s easy for each spouse to pray individually or maybe as a family with the children, but how often do couples come together in prayer? It’s interesting to note that the foundation of the family is first the couple before the children.
You might wonder why so many couples find it challenging to pray together. Studies show that a significant number of couples struggle with this aspect of their spiritual life. A 2014 survey by LifeWay Research found that only 16% of Christian couples pray together regularly. Reasons often include busy schedules, feeling awkward or vulnerable, or simply not knowing how to start. I’d love to hear your thoughts—what do you think are the reasons couples don’t pray together? Share your comments below!
Yet, the benefits of praying together as a couple are immense. Research indicates that couples who pray together experience a stronger emotional bond and greater relationship satisfaction. A study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that shared religious activities, including prayer, are linked to higher levels of marital happiness and stability. The Bible also speaks to the power of prayer in relationships. Matthew 18:19-20 (NIV) says, “Again, truly I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything they ask for, it will be done for them by my Father in heaven. For where two or three gather in my name, there am I with them.”
Praying together fosters intimacy and unity. It creates a space for couples to share their deepest concerns, hopes, and dreams, while also bringing them closer to God and each other. It’s a powerful act that can transform your marriage. But how can you make it a daily habit? Here are some practical wisdom tips to help you and your spouse pray together every day, using the mnemonic PRAY:
P – Plan a Specific Time: Set aside a specific time each day for prayer. It could be in the morning before the day starts, in the evening before bed, or any other time that suits your schedule. Consistency is key. Ecclesiastes 3:1 (NIV) reminds us, “There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under the heavens.”
R – Remove Distractions: Find a quiet place where you can focus without interruptions. Turn off your phones, shut the door, and make it a sacred time just for the two of you. Matthew 6:6 (NIV) says, “But when you pray, go into your room, close the door and pray to your Father, who is unseen. Then your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.”
A – Agree on Prayer Topics: Discuss what you will pray about. It could be your marriage, children, work, or any challenges you’re facing. Agreeing on prayer topics helps you stay united and focused. Amos 3:3 (NIV) asks, “Do two walk together unless they have agreed to do so?”
Y – Yield to God’s Will: Approach prayer with an open heart, willing to submit to God’s plans and purposes. Trust that He knows what is best for your marriage and will guide you accordingly. Proverbs 3:5-6 (NIV) advises, “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways submit to him, and he will make your paths straight.”
By following these practical wisdom tips, you can strengthen your marriage through daily prayer. Plan a specific time, remove distractions, agree on prayer topics, and yield to God’s will. Remember, the foundation of a strong family starts with a strong marriage, and prayer is a powerful tool to keep that foundation solid.
I encourage you to start praying together today and experience the transformative power it can have on your relationship. Share your journey and any tips you find helpful in the comments below. Let’s support each other in making prayer a cornerstone of our marriages.
